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Added on Wed 8th Sep 2021 9:40am   Last edited on Mon 21st Mar 2022 8:20pm
#1

Ashley Ford

Posts: 12
Location: New Jersey
Member since: 7/04/2021

Love After Death

It's never easy being the one left behind because you're not only left with responsibilities but also feelings. The grief never goes away because no person is replaceable. I've seen that there are people who found new love after becoming a widow/widower, and that's great. However, I know that the transition can never be that simple. How can one manage?



Added on Fri 10th Sep 2021 7:19am   Last edited on Fri 10th Sep 2021 7:19am
#2

Theresa M.

Posts: 15
Location: Massena
Member since: 27/03/2021

I know a couple that met through a support group. Both had lost a spouse to cancer.  They seem very happy together today.  Sometimes it seems like fate. 

Added on Wed 15th Sep 2021 2:50pm   Last edited on Wed 15th Sep 2021 2:50pm
#3

Desmond Harris

Posts: 19
Location: near the mountains
Member since: 15/08/2019

Most of the folks I know have remained single after their spouse died.  I'd say they just find it too difficult to move on and find love again.  Everyone handles the loss of a spouse in their own way. 

Added on Wed 22nd Sep 2021 9:12pm   Last edited on Wed 22nd Sep 2021 9:12pm
#4

Melody Flemons

Posts: 8
Member since: 20/04/2021

It takes time, and everyone is different. We all have our own ways of moving on. I know these are cliches, but it's true. If you know the time is coming soon, memories will start rushing in and you just can't rush that process of going through it all and making it out to the other side. 

It's hard, but you will get past it in time.

Added on Sat 25th Sep 2021 1:04am   Last edited on Sat 25th Sep 2021 1:04am
#5

Emma Stockholm

Posts: 15
Location: Florida
Member since: 31/03/2021

The death of someone you love will never be easy to process. There's also no single way of handling things. It's a case-to-case basis because there are people I know that didn't bother to date afterward. It will vary per individual, but the most important thing that may be helpful to everyone is taking things slow.

Added on Sun 6th Feb 2022 6:08pm   Last edited on Sun 6th Feb 2022 6:08pm
#6

Brandy Edwards-Bryant

Posts: 20
Location: The United States
Member since: 20/02/2021
Our children are still quite little, and my husband let me know that he'd rather I wait until they're much older to start dating again. He's mostly worried about abuse, I think. I can't even wrap my mind around dating again. I see myself waiting until we're reunited in heaven. However, to make him feel better, I promised to wait until the kids were grown before I brought someone else around.
Added on Mon 21st Mar 2022 8:20pm   Last edited on Mon 21st Mar 2022 8:20pm
#7

Melody Flemons

And there's nothing wrong with that, Brandy. Talking about family brings up a good point. If you do want to find someone else in time, choose someone that your ex would have as a friend. Your children too for that matter. No one can replace him or his position in your lives, but they should represent your family in a way the ex would approve.

That's showing your respect.